Does it depend on something ... who it was, relationship, age?
How long will it last?
Everyone is different.
Every time is different.
Having gone through it before doesn't make the second and third and more times any easier. You have a better idea, perhaps, of what to expect. But maybe not.
My grandfather died when I was 10 years old. He was 81.
My mother died at age 86. My husband and I cared for her in her/our home for 10 months.
It took me three years to get past the immense sadness and pain of her being absent from my life. She has now been gone 14 years this coming September. It is sometimes hard to comprehend that it has been so long, yet again, it is like yesterday.
There are friends we've known all our lives ... those we look toward for guidance .... and there are countless precious pets.
I receive emails from Boone, Iowa author Jolene Philo who wrote "A Different Dream for My Child: Meditations for Parents of Critically or Chronically Ill Children." Click Different Dream. Some of her posts have dealt with grieving. Perhaps they can help you.
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Thank you for mentioning DifferentDream.com. I would be interested in visiting with you more about grief. Your expertise would be a helpful piece as I gather resources to include in my upcoming book, "Different Dream Parenting: Raising a Child with Special Needs." Please email me!
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